Useful Links
Try as we might, we can’t possibly cover all of your BDSM needs on our humble site. Scroll down to find some additional resources.
No, not those resources, keep scrolling.
Humanistic BDSM
Learn more about Domina Chase’s unique philosophy of BDSM and interact with THE one and only Domina Chase by joining our Facebook Group, Humanistic BDSM: Inclusive AF Kink
See more HuBDSM content by following us on Quora, YouTube, and get exclusive content plus access to our private Discord server by joining our Patreon for as low as $1 a month!
Follow Domina Chase on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Fetlife
Follow Petrick “Pet” Peticles on Facebook, Fetlife, and Quora.
Get HuBDSM Facebook profile pic rings (including ones for he/him, she/her, and they/them pronouns) here.
Other BDSM Links
Fetlife, kinky social networking. Remember, it’s not a dating site. It’s more like kinky Facebook. This is the go-to site to meet others in the BDSM community and find events like munches or workshops near you.
BDSMtest.org, the go-to test for seeing where you might fit in. Like any online quiz, it’s not perfect but it can definitely point you in the right direction if you’re trying to figure out what role(s) might be best for you. If you’re new to the lifestyle, I highly suggest you give this a try.
Shibari.ph, a great resource for everything related to Shibari, the Japanese Art of Rope Bondage.
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, an organization dedicated to improving legal protections for the BDSM and poly communities in the US. Includes helpful resources like lists of kink-aware professionals.
The "Totally Innocuous Fuzzy" Checklist App, a nice interactive web app from Kinxlist. The list is pretty comprehensive and the activities are well-organized into logical categories. You can save the list if you create an account. The app works on both desktop and mobile but at the moment the ability to add comments doesn’t seem to appear on mobile. However, the rest of the checklist functionality will work just fine.
Example Negotiation Checklist, this is not the only one, we’re not even saying it’s the best one. You can always search for more or design your own, but this is a pretty decent option. I like that it has more than a simple binary “yes/no” and accounts for aspects like level of experience, not to mention touching on topics other than just activities for play.
Non-Binding Bondage, a detailed look at the legal complexity of BDSM contracts.
Center for Sexual Positivity: a research, education, and resource center for BDSM, other sexual practices, and the LGBT+ community
Kinkstarter: a site that includes BDSM articles but also has a strong focus on BDSM portrayals within movies and other media.
The BDSMblem Project: a great place to learn about the BDSM emblem, similar emblems, common mistakes people make with the emblem, and what actually sets the BDSM triskelion apart from similar symbols used around the world.
LGBT+ Related Links
PFLAG, the largest organization for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ+) people, their parents and families, and allies.
The Trevor Project, the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer & questioning (LGBTQ+) young people under 25.
GLSEN, an organization that works to ensure that LGBTQ+ students are able to learn and grow in a school environment free from bullying and harassment.
Transgender Terminology, a dictionary (plus other useful links and information) on a website that is paired with the Sounds like you need to be educated on transgender individuals but ok Facebook group.
Shinigami Eyes, a plugin for Chrome or Firefox. This highlights trans-friendly links in green and anti-trans links in red. Links that haven’t been flagged either way remain the default color (usually blue). This can be helpful for self-care, screening members for inclusive groups, etc.
GLAAD, resources for allies
Community for Accredited Online Schools, helpful resources for LGBT+ students
Sounds like you need to be educated on transgender individuals but ok, a Facebook tag group that is also a good educational group for those wanting to learn more about transgender people and their experiences. It has plenty of helpful resources including a language primer and the group is very good about answering questions.
Deadname Remover, Deadname-B-Gone, True Self, I lumped these three together since they each purport to do the same thing. These are browser plugins that allow you to scrub your deadname from selected sites and replace it with a name of your choice
Links Related to Polyamory / Non-monogamy
FindPoly, a blog with a lot of good information on different aspects of polyamory.
Poly.Land, a blog with information about polyamory, relationships in general, and sexual/romantic orientations.
More Than Two, a decent starting place to learn about polyamory and has a handy poly glossary. Full disclosure: there is some controversy surrounding one of the authors due to allegations made against him, but nonetheless the site has useful information.
Sounds Like You Need to be Educated About Polyamory but OK, a good educational Facebook group dedicated to poly education and is LGBTQ+ inclusive.
Unicorns-R-Us, a website dedicated to helping people understand the ethical issues with unicorn hunting and couple’s privilege.
Is there a resource that you think should be added? Contact us on social media and let us know!